Ideas + Encouragement

4 steps to kick fear out of your body

Have you ever faced a sense of fear in one area of your life and had it spill over in other parts in your life? Or maybe there is just this one thing that seems fearful to you but it holding you back from moving forward. Either way, the fear is blocking your life force and keeping you from going to your next awesome place in life. Because fear is something we hold in our body, each time we encounter fear it become a visceral experience. Breaking the pattern of fear and getting rid of it happens when we create a new mind-body pattern instead. Here are the 4 steps break the lock of fear in your life by creating a new mind-body experience. Choose it for anything that feels scary for you and it will spread to all aspects of your life. 1. Decide. Make a decision to do something scary. It can be something you just know you have to do of have always wanted to do. It can be skydiving, public speaking, approaching someone you have been eager to connect with or attending a workshop. Of course everyone has a different idea of what is scary. Once you figure out what is best for you – make the decision and commitment to do it. 2. Plan. If it is skydiving, plan the date and time, set aside the money and make the payment. If it’s public speaking, determine the venue or group, set the date and contact the people. Once it is on the schedule, its a real plan! 3. Prepare. This is an important part...

Trust Yourself

Trust yourself. You have deep wisdom inside that will lead you to exactly the best answer,  the best solution, the best course for your life. Value, celebrate, honor and support your intuitive brilliance! You know inside what to do. You know the truth. You know the answer. You know. And if your intuition and wisdom seem a little bit cloudy or foggy at the moment, don’t worry. That is easy to repair. Just take time every day to listen to the quiet voice inside you. Listen to it and it will grow. Honor it and it will flourish. Here are 3 ways you can hear your inner wisdom. 1. You can hear your inner wisdom when you are in stillness meditation. Taking time out every day to sit quietly gives you an opportunity to hear your truth. Your body-mind connection is especially powerful when you give yourself a chance to stop the busyness of your life and just sit still. Your body gets stillness, your mind gets stillness. Of course it does not happen all at once, but over time you will build the opportunity to experience stillness. So start now – you will be glad you did! 2. You can hear it in the shower. I love this one! You know how sometimes when you are in the shower or a hot bath you get all sorts of good ideas? Well that’s because your body is relaxing and your mind gets to flow freely – another example of the power of the body-mind connection. When you trying to figure out what to do and need your deep wisdom, get...

I know exactly what to do!

“I know exactly what to do.” You know that situation when you are trying to figure out what to do and there are so many competing thoughts ideas and options that finding the best choice seems impossible? That can be crazy-making! Here is an exercise for that situation. When there is a problem I am trying to solve or a choice to make, saying to myself “I know exactly what to do” actually leads me to the answer. Here is how… When I say these words to myself, “I know exactly what to do” the answer does not just magically pop into my head (OK, sometimes it does!) but what generally happens is that I set in motion an experience for my mind-body connection. Hearing those words allows my shoulders to relax, my breathing slows down a bit and the spinning in my mind takes a pause. Having slowed down a bit, I can listen to the wisdom from my intuition as well as the knowledge from my intelligence. The answer is within my reach and now I set myself up for success in solving the problem. Even if the answer does not come immediately, I know I can figure it out. This exercise can work for you, too. These words give you a reminder that you can access the information. Sometimes the answer is right in front of you, other times it might come a little later. You will experience some of the tension leaving your body as you relax and give yourself the chance to trust yourself and your abilities to figure it out. Once you start...

Own your space

You know that feeling where everyone is in your space. You are getting bombarded with so many ideas, agendas and neediness from others, you can’t even think straight. And when you have few quiet moments to yourself, even then they move in on you and take over your quiet time – your mind spinning with all the thoughts about other people’s demands on your time and life. Now its time to stop all that – and get your space back for yourself! Your personal space is yours and only you get to say what is allowed in. This goes for all aspects – your body, your spirit and your mind. Having ownership over your space means you are in charge of the influences and claims on your time and thoughts. Sure, you have obligations and responsibilities in your life, but that does not mean others get to encroach on your mental space. So, what to do? Here is an exercise with three simple steps to clear out your space of others. Sit in quiet place for a few minutes. Take time to feel yourself getting grounded and connected to the earth. This is a great way to make sure you are present in the moment. 1. Start by noticing all the “things” in your space. It might be people’s thoughts, someone else’e plan for your life, demands from responsibilities or the repaying of old conversations. Each of those represent someone or something that is in your space. Initially, you do not need to do anything with it, just notice what is there. 2. Begin to move everything out of...

What is your magic?

There is something truly amazing that you have to offer the world. It is your unique gift, passion, skill – its your magic. When you are fully engaged in your magic, you come alive and feel excited about your life. When you are living your magic, you are both energized and grounded. When you are sharing your magic, people are amazed by the ease and natural ability of your skill. What is your magic? If you know what it is – shout it out! (Share with all of us here in the comments) Discovering your magic can be delightful. It just needs a bit of reflection on your part and a willingness to see yourself as magical. Sometimes the mind does not see it, but the quiet mind, the subconscious, knows what it is. Here are some ideas you can use to tap into the awareness of your personal magic. 1. Grab some markers and a big piece of paper and write up as many things as come to your mind that you love to do, that gives you passion. Even if it seems like a small thing, write it down – brainstorming pulls all sorts of ideas from the back of your mind out into your consciousness. See which of these speaks deeply to you. If nothing stands out at first, put your paper away and look at it tomorrow morning. When you wake, have the paper with all your passions and things you love placed somewhere you can see it easily. What jumps out at you? Which of those things catches your eye. That one word or...

Trust Me

When I say “trust me” I am actually not asking you to trust me (Kathleen) but rather to get you to hear your own inner voice that is saying “trust me.” This comes from being willing to take time to hear yourself. It is also a willingness to live life with a sense of trust instead of trying to control every aspect. Clutching and gripping so you can have control of everything will cause a brittle life. Letting go of some of that tight hold will actually give you more freedom. It’s never going to work out perfectly anyways, so relax and let go a bit. Ahhh. *Breathe* It already feels better. Now,  trusting deeply does not mean sitting around and waiting for something wonderful to pop out of thin air. It means taking the next right action and moving forward. Do your work in the world as best as you can in alignment with what is true for you. Here are 3 ways you can create more of a sense of trust in life. 1. Meditate (of course!) every day. This gives you a chance to breathe and let go of some of the gripping control. It also gives you the opportunity to listen to your deep wisdom voice saying “trust me.” 2. Before you get distracted with all the demands on your day, treatment ask yourself “What is the next right action for me to take now?” You may be surprised by what you discover. Sometimes the next right action is difficult, but just take it one step at a time. Trust that you can do it,...

Take A Chance

Taking a chance on something new is scary! Thrilling and nerve wracking – sometimes getting butterflies or even cold sweats comes from taking that first step. But it is necessary in order to move forward. It’s exciting! Of course, when you take a risk, doctor you want to “get it right.” If it didn’t matter, you would never take a chance. None of us would. There are things you can do to smooth the process of taking risks, trying new things and putting yourself “out there.” Here are 3 tips for making it go more easily. 1. Tell a friend. The benefit of sharing your plan with a friend or partner is that it provides both support as you “go for it” as well as accountability in case of cold feet. 2. Allow for mistakes. Cut yourself some slack. Don’t worry if it’s perfect. Perfect is the enemy of good enough. If you wait till every thing is perfect – it will never happen. 3. Jump! Do it and move forward with your plans, hopes, dreams, ideas.   Enjoy!...

Intuition? Or mind chatter?

You know that feeling when you think your intuition is telling you something, but you are not quite sure. Maybe it’s your intuition, maybe its just some random thoughts going round in your mind. So how do you decide which it is? Here are a couple of strategies to try for getting clarity on your intuition. 1. Take a walk. There is nothing quite like taking a walk to clear your mind and get your body to relax. This gives you a chance to sort out the mind chatter from the deep internal wisdom. 2. Too cold to walk? Take a hot bath. Same thing happens when you soak – your body relaxes, your mind spins wildly and finally settles down. That is when the quiet whisper inside can be heard clearly and you know what to do. 3. Sleep on it. A frantic decision can often resolve it self with a good night sleep. This is especially powerful if you set your intention before you go to bed for a clear answer to be revealed to you in the morning. Your intuition is ready for you to use. Getting clarity gets easier as you develop a deep trust in your inner truth. Try one of these tips to help with clarity and deep trust. Enjoy, Kathleen  ...

The Sweet Spot

The path of least resistance is a powerful concept to keep in mind in life. It allows you to live without creating unnecessary struggle for yourself. It gives you the opportunity to go with the flow. Break through the resistance is another powerful concept to practice. When things get tough and you want to quit, keep pushing so you can break through the resistance and get to the other side. So which is it? Each are embodied by opposing images – “going with the flow” in the very picture of lounging in a boat floating down the river. An image for “break through the resistance” that comes to mind is a weightlifter pushing those weights beyond what was thought possible. Living in either of these states all the time is not ultimately conducive to a rich life, but there is that place in between…the sweet spot. Every day, every project, every situation has a sweet spot where you can both take the path of least resistance as well as break through the resistance. So how do you find it? How can you live a consistent life in the sweet spot? Here are 3 tips for life in the sweet spot. 1. Eat Well. Good nutrition not only affects the body, but it affects the brain and the ability to see clearly and make good decisions. Its such an obvious thing, but eating well is essential for your best life. 2. Meditate Daily. Taking time out every day to sit in stillness gives you the opportunity to see the world in a fresh way. You can take off the burden...

Unglue your shoulders from your ears

Unglue your shoulders from your ears. You know that feeling of being so stressed out, that your shoulders are all hunched and crunched – it is as if they are glued to your ears. Ok. Now breathe and slowly let your shoulders slide back down to their place. Ahhh. Want to keep that kind of stress from getting to you? Me too! Here is what I am going to be doing. In a few weeks, my daughter Talia has spring break. We decided on one of the days we are going to take an ocean-to-forest hike in Marin. We are going to fill our water bottles, pack our lunch and lace up our hiking shoes for a day in the magic of the forest, ocean and nature. I know for sure this is going to get my shoulders out of the hunch and crunch and allow me to be free of unnecessary stress. At least for that day and probably a few days after. It would be so truly awesome to take this kind of a hike every week. But even without an ocean-to-forest hike, here are 3 things you can do today to release stress. 1. Open your heart. How to do that? Well the number one way to open your heart and release stress is gratitude. Actually say out loud “Thank You” and you will shift your perspective. Having gratitude for all the good in your life right here, right now will release blocks, obstacles, stress and strain. Try it. 2. Go swimming. Pool, ocean, stream. Not near a body of water? Take a bath. Wash the...

Protect Your Confidence

When you are working on important project,  trying something new or pushing towards a difficult goal, it is essential to protect your confidence. This does not mean becoming puffed up with (false) confidence. This means staying grounded and centered. Here are 3 ways you can protect your confidence. 1. Allow your confidence to grow strong by validating and acknowledging each success and accomplishment. When you recognize your accomplishments, you are giving yourself a chance to repeat the habits that build success. 2. Stop the pattern of self criticism. Often times we are way too hard on ourselves. It’s good to see the places where we need to improve, but a constant beating down on yourself will undermine your confidence. And continuous self criticism actually does not lead to improvement anyways. See what needs to change and determine a single, simple step to shift the direction of your actions. Even a small step in the “right direction” builds confidence. 3. Resist the temptation to compare yourself with others. This is a big one, because we live in a world filled with comparisons and competition. To protect your confidence, keep your eye on your goal, your dream, your life – not someone elses. If it gets too overwhelming, a walk in nature can be a satisfying way to get grounded and centered. Best blessings,...

The “not-good-enough” slump

You know that experience of feeling “not good enough” compared to other people? Maybe it sneaks up on you when you read about someone else’s success. Maybe it happens if you wake up feeling low. Whatever the reason, it can be pretty tough to shake off. Here are 3 ways to get out of that slump: 1. See the good in others. When you validate other people, you take your mind off your problems. It also helps you see more of the goodness inside yourself. 2. Be of service to someone else. Immediate change of perspective comes with helping someone. It can be a small gesture, like holding the door open for the next person. It can be calling up a friend in need and offering to make a meal this week. 3. Express gratitude. Count your blessings. Say Thank You! Try any or all of these to get out of the “not-good-enough” slump. xo,...

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